Dear Mom of Two Under Two,
My boys are eleven months and about three weeks apart. At first, I didn’t realize there were others in the same situation and I felt so alone. But I’m here to tell you, you are not alone and there is purpose for this season. I know what it feels like to just be surviving when all you want is to start thriving.
Those first two months after my second son joined our family were so hard; I can still remember the angst in my heart as I battled to keep my head afloat. But in the midst of everything, God brought a verse to mind.
“He will tend his flock like a shepherd; he will gather the lambs in his arms; he will carry them in his bosom, and gently lead those that are with young.” - Isaiah 40:11, ESV
He showed me that there was grace for me in this season where so much was out of my control. He lovingly reminded me that I couldn’t do everything. And it has made all the difference since that moment. He taught me that everything we as moms do is for a greater purpose. That the little things we do and teach our little ones (such as respect, sharing, love) are seeds that will impact their future.
No matter what end of this struggle you’re on, He is with you, gently leading. Because that is who He is. In the dark of night when you’re up with the baby, He is there gently reminding you to be patient. During the meltdowns and fits, He is there gently teaching you how to respond. He meets you where you are, mama. Every tear, every prayer, is a seed planted in His garden for your little ones.
Jesus talked about seed, time, and harvest in the parable of the seed growing in Mark 4:26-29.
“And he said, “The kingdom of God is as if a man should scatter seed on the ground. He sleeps and rises night and day, and the seed sprouts and grows; he knows not how. The earth produces by itself, first the blade, then the ear, then the full grain in the ear. But when the grain is ripe, at once he puts in the sickle, because the harvest has come.” (ESV)
Dear, mama, right now you’re in the planting season. And after the planting season comes, the waiting for the harvest. While they are this young, it is so difficult to see any fruit. We probably won’t see any harvest for maybe another year or two. But if you stay faithful day by day, you will see it. Paul wrote to the Galatians,
“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap if we do not give up.” (Gal. 6:9, ESV)
I have always absolutely disliked being told that having two under two is just a season. Nevertheless, I can’t ignore that there is truth in that saying. However, what they don’t tell you is that the season shifts silently. It comes and leaves with barely a whisper. Suddenly, things have changed and it is easier. Life slowly transitions and things aren’t as hard as they once were. This will happen for you too. Every season will have its challenges, so don’t romanticize the future but don’t lose hope either.
In those early months with two under two, I had to give up a lot and say no a lot. Like, my Bible time, or going to do something. I had to bite my tongue and pray for patience more times than I can count. I needed to hear others say I could do this because it gave me hope. So much frustrated me. I experienced a handful of breakdowns, too. My kitchen floor and I are very familiar with one another. But God never gave up on me. He persisted and continued to gently lead me, even when I cried and dragged my feet.
Now, with my youngest at five months, I can get away for a few hours with my girlfriends. I can go on a date with my man without our babies. I can have time with the Lord each morning again. It really has gotten better with time. Keep the faith and keep your hope. Keep planting seeds of love and truth into your babies. And look forward to the harvest, because it is worth it.
God sees every dream you have to pass up, every no you have to say, every exhausting day with the children. And He won’t forget. Recognize the blessings in your life where you are today, and thank Him for it. Pray for yourself, but don’t complain. Just be honest with Him. Ask your husband to pray for you, too. You can’t do it all. You may never be able to. But you can foster the small hearts in your care and follow His gentle leading every day.
Rosie Lapp is a wife to a wonderful man and a mother to two energetic little boys. Seeking authenticity in every day, she strives to live without regrets and be bold; loving God and her family fearlessly. She endeavors to cultivate her love for Christ in all she does, whether she’s tending to household chores, the little ones, or writing away on a blog post or her latest project. It’s her passion to uplift and encourage young wives through her work at the Young Wives Club. There’s nothing she enjoys more than ministering to her family and others. Find more words of wisdom on her Pinterest, Facebook, and Instagram.